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A/S/L: 37, Male, Weston-super-Mare, UK
Marital: Relationship
Interests: My kids, movies, music, literature and computing
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Monday, 24th July 2006 @ 11:46
oh get a life the lot of you, tudor can write and ask of what he wants its his blog, if you dont like it dont bloody read it doesnt take a genius to work that out.
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Saturday, 22nd July 2006 @ 16:07
That's the thing - most decent friends want to help and keep trying to give their own advice.
The problem is, while it is usually well intentioned, this isn't always the best thing. Often, they don't know the whole story and or what that person is going through (as you said), which usually makes their advice worthless. And while the solution to them is often simple, it's not - they don't have the same emotional ties, or other physical, material or emotional investments in the situation.
Then there are times you just want to get away from things. At times like this, the last thing you want is the barrage of "advice" from people that you've heard before. You don't need to be reminded about it all the time.
Sometimes, the best thing a friend can do is nothing at all. Just being there, bringing some sort of normalcy is all that's needed. If they want to talk about it, fine, listen, if they ask for advice, then offer it.
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Saturday, 22nd July 2006 @ 07:27
Mr C makes some sense here:
>Of course, if you have a comment field in >our blog which allows people to 'comment'
>on the 'text' entries in the blog rather
>than knowing someones full circumstances
>then you should expect feedback (negative
>or positive)
I never used to have a comment section when I started, so no-one did. Feedback I have had in the past has ranged from constructive to downright insulting (especially when people used to email their comments to me). Then again, my blogging style was always to present everything that was going on, making it easier for people to see what was happening to me and my circumstances.
>Seems a little shallow for a blogger to
>expect all readers to have telepathy
>skills as well.
I wasn't saying that. I was saying that even as someone who has been through maybe 90%+ of what Jon is going through, that doesnt qualify me to tell him what to do. It took me years to come to the conclusion that what I know about life doesn't amount to squat :)
>And, as a blogger, you should expect >you're entries to be mis-interpreted if
>you don't write well. (not something that
>is applicable to this blog however!).
Well thankyou :)
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Friday, 21st July 2006 @ 22:57
Of course, if you have a comment field in your blog which allows people to 'comment' on the 'text' entries in the blog rather than knowing someones full circumstances then you should expect feedback (negative or positive) Otherwise don't provide the option!. Seems a little shallow for a blogger to expect all readers to have telepathy skills as well. And, as a blogger, you should expect you're entries to be mis-interpreted if you don't write well. (not something that is applicable to this blog however!).
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Friday, 21st July 2006 @ 20:14
hey i was 17 when i got together with tudor!
2 and a half years on im not 17 and we are still together!!
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Thursday, 20th July 2006 @ 18:31
Thanks, the list of 10 is absoutely spot on... and I ended up getting off with a 17 year old girl last night... not sure what I'm doing.
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